Thursday, April 26, 2018

double lines????? or just gassy?

Feel like puking right now.... not sure if it’s because I was tooooo hungry just now or if I’m PREGNANT!!!!
Part of me is really hoping that it’s due to the double lines. If only I had a test kit now...

Cos I’m late too!!! Could it really be????? *excited jiggle* *worried* *mixed emotions* hahahah....
😁😳😥🙃

Come what may...... (Dang if it’s just some stomach issues.. will feel so cheated again! Hahah)

Monday, April 23, 2018

Parenting patience

Sighz... think the boy is at the stage where he says ‘I don’t want you’ or soon it will be ‘I don’t like you’.. 


It will be used very loosely and just to express his emotions at that current moment of anger or frustration.


But it’s hard as a parent to accept that rejection. Because after all, many hours and tears have been put into caring for the being who just said that he doesn’t like u!


I know it will happen to ALL parents! Cos it’s just a stage like everything else.. till they fully comprehend the meaning of the word and the hurt it brings along.


Heck, some adults even use tt kind of words and while some attach more emotion to it, to some it’s just another word.


So now when the boy just expressed his dislike for his papa (and shortly after towards me), I’m actually still ok with it.. but the papa has taken it very badly 😥


I mean this boy is not even 3 and he can’t even control his pee for goodness sake.. why hold something so complex and big— such as emotions against this little thing..


Instead of ignoring or showing real temper, to which he probably still can’t understand, perhaps a more lor-so way of explaining how that rejection felt or even fake crying to show the sadness his words have brought you would have been a better learning point for him.


We’re all still so new to this parenting this.. esp for this new age kid.. many ppl say can’t use the methods of the past anymore..


Haizz, just as I’m typing this, the grandmother is doing the same thing... so out of 3 caregivers, 2 act this way... how u tell me how...


1 no use to teach this ‘modern’ way of upbringing, 1 has a nasty temper.. really hope this boy learns fast from whatever my limited temper can teach... hahah 😒

Friday, April 13, 2018

sudden pain

Omgoodness!!! Suddenly having bad body aches and feeling warmish..

So weird... so sudden!
Left my eye drops in the car too! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Please don’t let me be sick... praying to wake up feeling awesome tmr.. hope the meds work! 💫

Monday, April 02, 2018

My heart broke today

When I saw the bite mark, my heart broke. As I wore his pants and saw another red angry mark on his other thigh, I felt a little something die inside.


While all I wanted to do was to shout at you, I know that wouldn’t do anything. In fact, if I shouted at you, it would have been the same as what You have done to him!


Often I know he pushes you to the limits and way beyond.... but someday I hope u learn how to manage your anger and conquer it with patience.

Raising your hand in threats of beating him, or in fact really beating him will not work for long.


If anything, given his character, I believe nothing good will come out of it.


Would it release the frustration at that moment? Maybe. Would it make him scared at that moment? Maybe.

But 1 fine day.... just 1 day soon, after 1 such beating, he will no longer turn back to you and call u papa in such a passive manner. Or look at you with fear and regret.


He will remember the pain u have inflicted on him. The pain will bring along some anger and resentment towards you. And then everything changes.


You are NOT this person. Why do you let your anger go uncontrolled so often? 

Pause. Think. Don’t regret.


When u get angry, I always fear that u’ll lose control and that you’ll make the stupidest actions that will change our lives forever.


Words and actions can hurt long after it’s said and done..


“A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves you a hundred moments of regret.”




I’ll always remember that day when we were younger. Mummy got so angry with boy2 which teaching him that she threw the pen on the table with anger. And somehow the pen bounced of the table and flew towards his eye..

It left a bad cut right above his eye and it bled badly. Being a young kid then, I was shocked.

To this day, it has left a scar on boy’s2 eyelid.

Imagine how one’s life would change if it had gone into The eye instead?

Would that moment of misbehaving be worth the anger that caused the lost of sight in 1 eye?


That incident also left me with the reminder that in anger we do certain things that even how much we regret after, it may be too late to undo it.


So I sincerely and seriously Pray that you will learn how to manage your anger. May you yearn to have the extra patience towards your child(ren). And may you have the wisdom to choose to keep your hands (and teeth) away from causing physical and mental pain toward him.


I love you bb... please don’t break my heart more by hurting our boy... Today, u made me really hurt and broken inside to see that ure able to inflict such injuries onto your own kid.

He may have been an ass, but he’s just a kid.

If u didn’t bite or whack an adult that pissed you off, why do you let yourself bite a kid?

And he’s YOUR OWN KID! 


As a mother, I worry... I’ll be honest.. I worry that one day u’ll lose it and hit him or maybe even me...... maybe I worry too much but it’s easy once it becomes a habit.


Dear God, I pray.... please don’t let this ever happen again.......