Patience is a virtue

This little shortie is growing so fast....

He’ll be 3yo in less than a month... how did time fly by this quickly? The nights are indeed long... I still rmb how we struggled and how messed up I was in my work when he arrived...

Took more than a year to get things back on track...

But this boy......... oh my heart....

Now every scolding I give him is met with a ‘noooo...’ then followed by a mighty creative argument of why he did the said wrong thing 😂

Like the other day, I was telling him to leave some of the lemon barley for wp and not to finish the whole cup...

👦🏻: noooo, this is for me. Papa don’t want to drink this. Papa drink this (went to take the can of ice cream soda from the table to show me)

And his reasoning skills quite power I must say! Haha.. some of the ‘reasons’ actually do make sense..

Like when we ask him to take off his shoes when he gets home:

👦🏻: noooo cannot... my hand dirty (which is kinda true cos he was eating waffle otw home)

So saying so, I believe this boy will be a challenge to the both of us as he grows up! Let’s see how creative we all can be!

On a whole other note, ytd he had a bad fall onto the back of his head.. resulting in quite a bad lump currently.

So when it came to sleeping time, he somehow got the idea that lying on his head would be painful. Cried the house down without even trying cos he said he was scared...

Haizz, then rejected the papa from crying him..

I know it hurts to be rejected when your own kid doesn’t want you to comfort him when all u want is to make him feel better.. :(

And me watching the whole thing makes me hurt even more.

But isn’t it normal for a child to want their mother a little more than their dad in the initial years? I mean assuming the mum is the softer of the 2 and speaks in nicer tones... 😬

Seriously I just feel that in recent week, the boy has learnt that when someone shouts at him, it’s because the person is angry with him.

And this feeling of having someone angry at him makes him scared and cry as a result.

So there was a loooooot of crying in the past week+... cos he would tell me after that that I can’t be angry (with) him.

Haiz the hubs is not a bad father... he just has a very bad (and short) temper... it will not help to whack this kid whenever he misbehaves because that’s just not how u educate a kid.

Yes, I agree with beating but ONLY when the situation calls for it. Do it too often and it loses its effect. I just wish the hubs can calm down at times and see what I mean.

Really dislike the shouting fest whenever he beats the boy so hard that he cries sooooo badly.. n I see the burning red mark on his small body....

My heart just can’t take it......

Don’t ask me if it’s my biz.. of cos it’s my biz... tts our son... 

I’m not saying we can’t beat him.. just don’t beat and shout at him so often. He’s a kid. Kids are assholes..

just wish he has a little more patience in him... I know he has....... 😔

We love u b... as much as your son says that he doesn’t like u, pls don’t take it to heart ok?

He still soooo young.. just shower him with more love and patience ok.. it’s like nurturing a plant... u can de! 💪🏼

Baby Update 3

Baby Update 3:

22nd August:

9w3d...... officially into the 3rd month.... nausea was an absolute bitch the last week++... 

it’s still the case so far and by evenings, I’m usually all ready to cry.. like this timing 5+pm, is the start of torture period..

Whether or not I have something to snack on, I still feel Super nauseated and uncomfortable. Then comes dinner time where all I feel like doing is puking.. no appetite to eat but somehow I still do.. hahah.. life of a greedy person!

Ytd was bad cos I had a super bad headache since the night before.... all that rubbing of the peppermint eo on the right side of my temple also couldn’t relief the pain..

Luckily the hubs brought the kid out for a short fishing 🎣 experience.. tried to take a nap (but was interrupted like a thousand times).. thank God by the time they returned, I felt so much better! 

So yes, update wise.... wk 7+ to 8 has been nothing but torture... 9 feels bad still but maybe not as bad as 8.... for now............

This is making evening appts tough.. because the urge to postpone it is sooooo high! Worse thing is evening is the best time for appt le!

I kept trying to tell myself that it’s a mind over matter thing. Heng it’s something I’m telling myself...

If the hubs were to tell me this, I will sure whack him le! Hahaha....

Cos it’s NOT! My mind don’t even like it that my body is reacting this way! It’s all ready and strong to go work but I tell you.... this nausea shit is no joke. I feel like the only way to not feel it is when ure asleep! It’s that bad..

I still rmb a few times when I was abt to fall asleep but was soooo uncomfortable and coughing and gagging at the same time... then can still tear up abit.. so Ke lian hor... haizz...

Pls go away soon!!! 

24th August:

We saw u for the 2nd time today baby! U have arms and legs already! Can’t see your fingers and toes yet..

Dr Choo suddenly said u are wk10 instead of wk9 as what we thought.. so means your edd date is 19th March 2019. Which IS the date I’m hoping that u’ll arrive... but logically I doubt that will happen.. think u’ll come earlier and no other dates look good! Hahaha...

Anyway your elder bro saw u this time too! He was super excited the whole time! Kept asking me and daddy where is baby... your bro is still too young to understand that u’re in me.. the concept of pregnancy is indeed one big mystical process!

Anyway can’t wait to see u at wk13... really really concerned about my blood pressure and sugar level.... sighz 

29th August:

Wk 11... still having nausea and food aversion. Hungry almost all the time! What the hell qualify as healthy snacks which u can binge eat?

Or yes! Suddenly remember shld go get cherry tomatoes and cucumbers to chew on! Hmm think carrots high in calories right? Need to check...

Haizz this pregnancy I keep getting sinus issues.. in fact I’m not sure if it’s runny nose/flu or sinus.

It comes and goes. And boy when it comes, I almost can’t function! It’s the type that I get when I’m really tired. Then after a nap or 1 night’s rest, it will go away.

But this time, it can go on for 2 days or more! I’m concluding that my body is more tired than I think it is. I guess as compared to when I was having Don, this time I have to handle the boy’s stuff PLUS grow a baby! Hahah... also I think I haven been nourishing my body ever since don’s birth or even before. So body is weaker.. :(

Talking abt weaker, I’m sooooo glad that wp’s work is flexible and that he’s hands-on with don! Dont even want to think how I’ll manage without his help these past few weeks!

Really grateful and blessed! 😇🙂

And at times, hands-on he is! As in hands smacking ONTO don! The boy is a body of energy these days but what to expect out of a soon-to-be 3years old!?!!?! Not active then worried ah...

Yes, he has selective listening issues at times and really a stubborn mind of his own but aheeemm..... I think the old man should look into the mirror then realise where that trait come from! 🤣

But jokes aside, it makes me feel really incompetent whenever don gets beating from wp when I’m not the one watching over him.

Like if wp is feeding him then he monkeys around and get a whacking and cries for me so pitifully........... I feel like why am I so lousy that I can’t even overcome this nausea shit and get my act together to feed him myself?!

Meal times are sometimes war time with the boy but it’s all part and parcel wad.. just need more patience..

War times with don are:

Meal times

Bathing time

Getting ready for school

Sleeping/nap time 

Please baby, u don’t have these issues too when u arrive ok! Please be a very self-soothed baby and naturally easy to care for..

Mummy will shower you with more love this way! And daddy can learn from you to have more patience. 

6th sept:

Wk 12... just when I thought nausea was gonna ease up this week, I’m still feeling it especially in the evenings...

Really feeling awful was being so out of touch with work the past few weeks... 1st trimester and the last always mess up work big time! Stress.... 😣😖

And dunno whether I mentioned before but pregnancy is really a phase when I feel total lost of control over my body.

Hmm how shall I put this.... it’s like the baby suddenly takes over.. 难听一点, it’s like a parasite who is invading the host functions! 😅

Ya la, I know it’s hormones and all... but like the occasional night chills I’ve been getting suddenly.. like suddenly will wake up, cold and shivering, fingers hurting..

googled it and they said something about blood flow and not moving much while sleeping.. but it’s bad man!

The pre-eclampsia thing from don’s time is still in my mind.. like I try to keep calm but I really can feel the giddiness when I get even just a little angry these days.. I don’t even want to touch on the sugar issue cos I haven been tracking yet!

So this pregnancy, a few fears have been going through my mind almost daily.... maybe need to focus on work instead then don’t have free mental space to worry other stuff huh... hahaha...

I really want to! Need to get my act together.. baby, I can’t wait to see u again on tues.. 😘

Oooo btw your bro has been ‘kissing you’ from time to time these days... can’t wait for the both of you to meet! 💕

12th sept:

Oh man, we’re back at 12w3d... Dr Choo says shld just follow the initial date of edd which is 26th March 2019... :/

So not at 13wk as I initially thought! -_-

No wonder the nausea still didn’t go away....

Anyway ytd we did the OSCAR test and it was such a different experience from the one we did for don.. don’s was done by dr Choo in her clinic.

Ytd for #2, we went to a separate clinic at mt.E side to do the scan. It lasted a good 10-15mins at least.. I almost fell asleep cos there were soooo many delays ytd.. 

But watching baby on the screen........ wow, the feeling is surreal.. all the punish feel, the pain, the uncomfortable state I was in the last few weeks......

All seemed so unimportant as we watched baby move his hand up like as if he was waving to us... or when he tried to reach out to play with his toes.... 😍😍😍 awww my heart....

(When I type he it doesn’t really mean I want a boy ok.. hahah... a girl is very welcome this time! )

So all looked ok on the scans.. just need to wait for the blood tests report to be out then we’ll see what the doc says..

Meanwhile just got to tahan with the tummy pain I’ve been experiencing... feels like the saggy tummy is causing all that pull downwards.. to the point that it’s uncomfortable to walk or get up from a sitting position.

Didn’t even get this till the 3rd trimester previously... oh dear.....

Also all this sudden fatigue I’ve been feeling is quite sad.. I rmb feeling it earlier while with don.. not when I’m almost into the 2nd trimester... hmmm, really true when they say every pregnancy is different!