Parenting patience

Sighz... think the boy is at the stage where he says ‘I don’t want you’ or soon it will be ‘I don’t like you’.. 

It will be used very loosely and just to express his emotions at that current moment of anger or frustration.

But it’s hard as a parent to accept that rejection. Because after all, many hours and tears have been put into caring for the being who just said that he doesn’t like u!

I know it will happen to ALL parents! Cos it’s just a stage like everything else.. till they fully comprehend the meaning of the word and the hurt it brings along.

Heck, some adults even use tt kind of words and while some attach more emotion to it, to some it’s just another word.

So now when the boy just expressed his dislike for his papa (and shortly after towards me), I’m actually still ok with it.. but the papa has taken it very badly 😥

I mean this boy is not even 3 and he can’t even control his pee for goodness sake.. why hold something so complex and big— such as emotions against this little thing..

Instead of ignoring or showing real temper, to which he probably still can’t understand, perhaps a more lor-so way of explaining how that rejection felt or even fake crying to show the sadness his words have brought you would have been a better learning point for him.

We’re all still so new to this parenting this.. esp for this new age kid.. many ppl say can’t use the methods of the past anymore..

Haizz, just as I’m typing this, the grandmother is doing the same thing... so out of 3 caregivers, 2 act this way... how u tell me how...

1 no use to teach this ‘modern’ way of upbringing, 1 has a nasty temper.. really hope this boy learns fast from whatever my limited temper can teach... hahah 😒