Cheating & Scandals

So apt how the news of Andy Hui cheating on Sammi Cheng just broke out a few hours ago...

Apparently he was caught on video (in a taxi 🙄) with the other woman. Kissing and touching and all that......

Not that I’m a fan of either of them.. but it’s the concept of cheating and challenge of maintaining a relationship/ marriage that have been on my mind lately.

With a new baby in the family, some days can get quiteeeee overwhelming!

Exhausting is also another word I’ll use.. however thankfully this time round, I’m kinda used to waking up at odd hours..

Just miss having stretches of 3-4hrs of proper sleep....

Ok I digress....

So anyway with both of us being so tired, sex is basically not very high on the to-do list.

But noooooo.... I’ve been wanting it since wk 2 or 3 postpartum actually! 

Just really sucks that we don’t have the proper space or privacy where we can do it without someone just walking in! 🤦🏼‍♀️

And I don’t want just a quickie..... not after such a hiatus and also it being the ‘first time’ since Tasha arrived.... plus how all those complications right before she came also kept us actionless 😒

I know ure reading this bb, it’s not that I DONT want.... I WANT!! Pls create a time n space for us... hahah....

Ok anyway back to that video..... most of the time, it showed him reaching out to hold her hand.. (though she was the one throwing herself at him most of the time) but still it’s a 2-party kind of thing...

Humans are weird... we need certainty but we also crave uncertainty... while we want the certainty of going home to the familiar cb/kkb, we crave the uncertainty of how a different cb/kkb experience might feel...

It’s perfectly ok if this craving for uncertainty happens when a person is not in a relationship or (God Bless) marriage!

But it truly sucks when it happens in the latter and the party in play can’t control their emotions and actions.

That’s when soooo many people get hurt and sometimes things go beyond ‘repair’.

We hear it so often on how it’s very very very important to WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE. To invest time in each other.

But when technology and all matters of daily life try to snatch you away from the one u call ‘Husband/wife’, it can get hard.

Both parties might feel like they’re trying but as it is, all of us have very different expectations.

So expectations + tense/stressful conditions = unsatisfaction  

I feel that’s when people stray. They look outward to find something that can satisfy them.

May not be sexual. But definitely it’s gonna be taking time AWAY from working on the issue at hand.

And not putting IN more time to work on it.

Haizz heavy topic... much more to say on this

But at 1.30am, with baby happily fed, I think sleep is more impt! Hahah...

Last thing to add before I end...... I think maybe that’s why somehow a part of me is dying to go on a short trip. Just us 4 as a family. (Though I also feel that i do owe my in laws an awesome holiday for all their help the last few months!)

But just for now, I feel I need the space to regroup and reconnect with my husband and kids (mainly don) without the distraction of normal daily life. And probably have leisurely sex while both the kids sleep.....

Is that too much to ask for?

(🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 pls let that 10k loan get through.. then I think I don’t mind to spare a few hundreds to escape to Batam for a few days!haha...)i